How to Know if Your Therapist is the Right Fit for You | Therapy Tips

Wondering if your therapist is the right fit? Learn how to tell if your therapist truly understands you, provides direction, and fosters a strong therapeutic relationship. Find the support you need to thrive.

Finding the right therapist can feel a bit like dating—without the awkward “Who’s paying for this?” moment at the end. It’s about connection, trust, and a shared sense of purpose. So, how do you know if you’ve found your person? For starters, within a couple of sessions, you should feel like your therapist “gets” you. Not in a “we’d totally hang out” kind of way (because that’s not their job), but in a way that makes you think, “Okay, they’re really trying to understand me, not just ticking boxes on a form.”

The Importance of Connection and Trust in Therapy


Therapy isn’t just about expertise; it’s about the relationship. Research shows that the most important predictor of success in therapy is the connection between you and your therapist.

  • Feeling Understood vs. Being Diagnosed: A good therapist will make you feel truly seen, not just recite your diagnosis back to you.
  • The Role of Emotional Presence in Therapy: Your therapist should show up emotionally in sessions, not just rely on their expertise.

What to Look for in a Good Therapist


A good therapist will bring direction to the room. Therapy isn’t just venting (though we love a good vent sesh). Your therapist should help you navigate your challenges with intention.

  • Expertise Matters, but the Relationship Matters More: While knowledge is important, the therapeutic relationship is key to your growth.
  • Finding Direction in Your Therapy Sessions: By the third session, you should start to see the breadcrumbs leading somewhere meaningful.

Trust Your Gut: Signs You’ve Found the Right Fit


Therapy can feel vulnerable, even uncomfortable at times, but it shouldn’t feel wrong.

  • Feeling Understood, Heard, and Supported: You should walk out of sessions feeling connected to the process and a little lighter.
  • When to Consider a Different Therapist: If something feels off, it’s okay to say, “This isn’t the right fit for me.”

How Roots in College Station Helps You Find the Right Fit


At Roots in College Station, we understand how important it is to find the right therapist. That’s why we have a Care Coordinator who follows up as you get started.

  • Our Care Coordinator’s Role in Your Journey: They help ensure you’re matched with the right clinician, whether it’s with us or in the community.
  • A Team of Warm, Skilled Therapists Ready to Support You: Our team is uniquely equipped to provide the understanding and direction you need to thrive.

Ready to find the right therapist for you?

Contact Roots Psychotherapy in College Station today to start your journey toward meaningful, supportive therapy.

How do I know if my therapist is the right fit?

You should feel understood, heard, and supported within a few sessions. Your therapist should also provide direction and foster a strong therapeutic relationship.

What should I look for in a good therapist?

Look for someone who combines expertise with emotional presence, helps you find direction, and makes you feel comfortable and supported.

What if my therapist isn’t the right fit?

It’s okay to seek a different therapist. A good fit is essential for effective therapy, and many practices, like Roots in College Station, offer support in finding the right match.

Jeremy Dew, LPC
April 29, 2025

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